I don’t know when I stopped dreaming.
Maybe it was somewhere between packing lunchboxes and paying overdue bills. Maybe it was the day I canceled my pottery class because my husband “needed” me home. Or maybe it was the year my mother got sick and I put everything on hold, again.
All I know is, I blinked and I was 57—with grown kids, a quiet house, and a closet full of clothes that didn’t really feel like me.
Last summer, I was helping my daughter move and she joked, “Mom, you should take one of these road trips before your knees give out.” We laughed. But that night, I couldn’t sleep. I kept thinking, Why not me? Why not now?
So I did something I never would’ve done in my thirties: I booked a one-way ticket to Oregon. Just me, a backpack, and a vague plan to see the coast and maybe sketch a little.
That trip changed something in me.
Now I’m back home, but everything feels different. The weight I’ve carried for years—the responsibility of being the perfect wife, mother, daughter—has finally lightened. It’s as if that trip cracked something wide open inside of me, and I’ve started chasing the life I’ve always wanted, the life I had put aside for everyone else.
I spent two weeks driving up the Pacific Coast Highway, stopping wherever I felt like it. I stayed in motels with chipped paint and took long walks on the beach, the sand cool beneath my feet, the salt air filling my lungs. I watched the sun set over the ocean, and for the first time in what felt like forever, I just breathed.
I didn’t have to think about anyone else. I didn’t have to be the “perfect” anything. I could just be.
I spent hours sketching the cliffs, the waves, the ever-changing sky. It felt like I was reconnecting with a part of myself I’d buried for decades. I remembered how I used to dream about being an artist when I was younger, but life always got in the way. After a few days, I started to wonder—what if I could actually do this? What if I didn’t have to wait for some perfect moment to start?
When I got back home, I didn’t want to just slip back into my old routine. I didn’t want to go back to pretending everything was fine when I knew, deep down, that I was missing out on the life I truly wanted. So, I made a decision. I decided to finally take those pottery classes I had put off for so long. I found a local studio, signed up for a class, and told myself I wouldn’t back out this time.
It wasn’t easy. I was out of my comfort zone. I had spent years taking care of everyone else, and now it felt strange to do something just for me. But the more I worked with the clay, the more I realized how much I had been starving for creativity in my life. Every piece I made felt like a small victory—proof that I was still capable of creating, of dreaming, of living for myself.
But it wasn’t just about pottery. I started making other changes too. I signed up for a yoga class, started hiking on weekends, and even took a cooking class to learn how to make the dishes I’d always admired but never had the time to make. I began to feel alive again. I was 57, yes, but I was also finally waking up.
I also started thinking about my relationship with my husband. For so many years, I had centered my life around his needs, around keeping the peace in our home, around making sure everything was perfect. But the more I focused on myself, the more I realized how much I had neglected myself—and, in turn, how much our relationship had become stagnant.
We had been married for almost 30 years, but I had spent so much time being his wife, his partner, that I had lost track of who I was in the equation. We were comfortable, but comfortable isn’t the same as happy.
One evening, I sat down with him and told him everything I had been thinking. I explained how I felt like I had lost myself over the years and how I wanted to rediscover who I was, separate from being a wife and mother. It was a hard conversation, one that made me nervous to have, but it was one that needed to happen.
To my surprise, he listened. He didn’t get defensive, and he didn’t try to talk me out of it. He admitted that he had noticed I’d been different lately, more present in a way he hadn’t seen in years. And, instead of being angry or hurt, he supported me. He said that he understood I needed this, and he promised to help me chase my dreams, whatever they may be.
It was a turning point for both of us. We had spent so many years raising kids and managing our household that we had forgotten how to be partners, how to share our hopes and desires for the future. But now, as I began to pursue my own dreams, I found that I was rediscovering my love for him in a new way. I wasn’t just the person who kept things running anymore. I was someone with my own passions, my own purpose—and that made our relationship feel fresh again.
But the real twist came when I decided to take a step I never thought I would: I opened an online store to sell the pottery I had been making. I didn’t think anyone would be interested, but I was wrong. People started buying my pieces. I got messages from customers telling me how much they loved my work, how each piece had its own story, its own personality. I was overwhelmed, but in the best way possible.
As the orders started rolling in, I realized that I was building something I had never thought possible. I was creating a business, something entirely my own, and I had no one to thank but myself. It felt incredible to finally be in control of my future, to be living the life I had always dreamed of—but never dared to pursue.
Now, looking back on the past year, I can hardly recognize the person I was before. The woman who was so caught up in pleasing everyone else that she lost sight of her own dreams. The woman who thought it was too late to start something new.
But it wasn’t too late. It’s never too late.
The best part? As I’ve started chasing the life I truly want, I’ve also learned something important about my family and my relationships. I learned that it’s okay to put myself first. That taking care of myself doesn’t mean I’m neglecting anyone else—it means I’m showing up better for them. I’m not just the person who keeps everything running; I’m the person who lives her own life, and in turn, that makes me a better wife, mother, and friend.
The karmic twist in all of this is simple: when you start putting energy into what truly lights you up, the universe starts aligning things in your favor. What I thought would be a small, selfish act—taking that trip, taking those pottery classes—has turned into something far bigger than I could have imagined. It’s brought me closer to the people I love, given me a sense of purpose, and opened doors I never expected. I’ve learned that when you start chasing your dreams, the world responds in ways you can’t always predict.
If you’re reading this and feeling stuck, remember—it’s never too late to start living the life you want. You are worthy of happiness, of fulfillment, and of chasing those dreams that have been sitting on the shelf for years. Start small, start messy, but just start.
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