Following the sudden passing of her devoted husband, Stephen “tWitch” Boss, Allison Holker Boss discusses her road to recovery and finding a new mission in an exclusive interview. Allison has discovered peace through aiding those who are suffering in silence after his tragic death four months ago.
Allison remembers one of their simple pleasures after a difficult day at work: spending time together in the kitchen preparing dinner.
He gently touched her back as she passed, and she remembered it. She also recalled how lively the dinnertime discussions were. The sound of their love reverberated throughout their house, sounding like a beautifully executed ballet.
The sudden demise of the legendary DJ who later rose to the position of executive producer of the Ellen DeGeneres Show devastated Allison, now 35, and their loved ones.
Stephen had been subtly contending with his own issues, which many people were unaware of. No one knew he was low, according to Allison. He believed that nobody should have known. “What he wanted to be was Superman, the all-encompassing protector. ”.
Allison has found it challenging to reconcile the stark contrast between the beautiful life they had created and the suffering Stephen must have gone through on his own. She is juggling a variety of emotions, such as anger, love, sadness, and disappointment.
She still has a strong sense of purpose, which drives her to pursue inner peace. “Stephen brought such joy to this world, and he deserves to be remembered for the beautiful man he was,” she asserts.
Allison founded the Move with Kindness Foundation earlier this year in Stephen’s honor, which is committed to assisting initiatives relating to mental health.
She highlights the necessity of reaching out to others when feeling down or depressed in order to remind ourselves that there are people who will look to us as a guiding light even in our darkest moments.
Allison and Stephen have always worked together on projects with the goal of encouraging positivity. She acknowledges her initial trepidation about learning about her new mission following his passing.
She remembers discussing her worries about pursuing her life’s purpose of love and joy—which had always been linked to her family—with her friend Andy Grammer. Her heart was moved deeply by Andy’s supportive words. He emphasized to her that her goal had not changed, but rather deepened and become more complex.
It simply looks different now and has a little more depth, he said”.
Allison treasures this conversation because it confirmed her suspicions and gave her the confidence to move forward.
“I’ve had so many people, especially men, reach out to me, saying how much it affected them because they had no idea how much they were holding in and not expressing,” she continues.
“At first, I thought that was a lot to hold onto, but then I realized I want people to feel comfortable talking to me, to open up, and to realize that we need to support one another during these times. ”.
Allison acknowledges the physical effects of her trauma and talks about how they surfaced in the weeks after Stephen’s passing. It had become more difficult to support herself, her kids, friends, and family.
Cold plunging brought her peace, so she started doing it every day. She was able to relieve her severe stress thanks to this practice, which also improved her mental and spiritual health.
A new bond built on open communication and vulnerability has emerged between Allison and her children as a result of the loss of Stephen as the family’s support system.
Allison emphasizes the importance of instilling in her kids and herself the idea that experiencing anger or sadness does not automatically make one a bad person.
