Two years have passed since the passing of the renowned actress and singer Doris Day, who was one of the biggest stars of the Hollywood Golden Age and died at the age of 97. Between 1947 and 1967, she released more than 650 songs, made almost 30 movie appearances, and was honored with the Presidential Medal of Freedom among many other honors for her commitment to music and film.
A close friend recently revealed that the adored actress and singer didn’t want a funeral, memorial service, or grave marker after she passed away in 2019. Let’s find out why, though.
Doris was well-liked and admired for her work in films throughout her 50-year career. She became well-known after appearing in films like Pillow Talk, Love Me or Leave Me, and The Man Who Knew Too Much. The 97-year-old had four marriages but only one child overall. Day’s son from her first marriage to Al Jorden, Terry Mulcher, passed away from melanoma in 2004. Day, who rose to fame in the movies, was also a well-known advocate for animal rights. She advocated for animals without a voice and was a very compassionate person.
She passed away from pneumonia, and her charity, the Doris Day Animal Foundation, also noted that, at her request, there would be no funeral services, grave markers, or other public memorials. Instead, she was cremated, and her remains were dispersed.
She struggled with death and didn’t want to talk about the possibility of a funeral, according to her close friend and manager Bob Bashara.
And there was a valid justification for her last wishes.
She detested death and was unable to be with her animals if they had to be put to sleep. She had a hard time accepting death,” he claimed in a People interview from 2019. According to Bashara, “I’d say we need to provide for her dogs [after she died], but she’d say, ‘I don’t want to think about it,’ so you just take care of them.
“When her will was written, she had several and wanted to make sure they were taken care of. She disliked talking about the dogs’ passing. ”.
From the early 1970s, Day was a fervent advocate for animal rights, condemning the wearing of fur and founding the Doris Day Animal Foundation. She helped establish a Horse Rescue and Adoption Center in Texas that aids abused and neglected horses in 2020 by auctioning off more than 1,000 of her possessions and raising $3 million for the cause. After marrying the producer Martin Melcher, Day, who had been raised a Catholic, became a practicing Christian Scientist.
Terrence “Terry” Paul Jorden, her lone child, was born during her first marriage to trombonist Al Jorden, whom she met when she was 16 years old. After being adopted by Martin Melcher, Day’s third husband and a film producer, Jorden later changed his name to Terrence Paul Melcher.
Day “drifted away” from organized religion following Melcher’s passing in 1968, according to Bashara, who also told People that Day “remain[ed] a spiritual person. She thought her voice had been given to her by God, and she believed in God, the man claims. She frequently proclaimed, ‘God gave me a voice, and I just used it. Day took a break from acting in the early 1970s but did come back for two TV shows. Then, in 1985, she started hosting her own one-year-long television talk show on the Christian Broadcasting Network called “Doris Day’s Best Friends.”.
However, he adds, “I think it was because she was a very shy person” Day’s friend and manager Bashara says he is still unsure of why Day was reluctant to have a funeral”.
According to him, Day knew from the letters she received how much her fans adored her but had no idea why. The little girl from Cincinnati who had extraordinary talent and ventured out into the world to pursue her passions in spite of herself, he claims, “never let her celebrity affect her and who she was.”. Her ashes were cremated and scattered.
We all need to deal with death in our own unique ways, and everyone’s wishes need to be honored.
There will always be admiration and memory for this legendary singer and actress.
Let Doris Day rest in peace. Give a little.
