I used to avoid mirrors. Photos. Even hugs.
At my heaviest, I felt like I was shrinking inside myself while my body just kept getting bigger. Everything hurt—my joints, my back, my pride. I’d smile in public, but at home, I couldn’t even walk up the stairs without losing my breath and my temper.
The turning point wasn’t dramatic. No TV show moment or hospital scare. It was a Tuesday. My niece asked if I wanted to play tag in the yard, and I laughed it off. But she looked at me and said, “You never want to run anymore.”
And she was right. I didn’t want to run. I didn’t want to move.
So I started. Slowly.
Walks around the block. Then actual workouts. Learning what food felt like fuel, not punishment. Saying no to things, including people, that didn’t support the version of me I was fighting for.
It took nearly two years. 92 kilos gone.
But here’s the thing no one tells you about losing weight—what you gain in the process isn’t just about your body. It’s about so much more.
When I started my journey, it was all about numbers. I thought if I could just hit a certain weight, if I could just squeeze into the size I used to wear, then everything would magically fall into place. But along the way, I realized it wasn’t about that at all.
At first, I was obsessed with the scale. Every day, I’d step on it, hoping to see a smaller number. Some days, it moved, and I’d feel like I was on top of the world. Other days, it stayed the same—or even went up—and I’d feel like I’d failed. But after a while, I began to understand that it wasn’t the number that mattered. What mattered was how I felt. It was about the strength in my legs after walking five miles without stopping. It was the way my clothes started to fit differently, not just looser, but more comfortably. And it was the way I started to love the feeling of moving my body, something I hadn’t experienced in years.
That’s when I realized that the weight loss wasn’t the biggest win. It was the confidence that came with it. The sense of self-worth that slowly, but surely, returned. Every little victory—getting up from the couch without groaning, running a little faster, eating a salad instead of a pizza—built on each other. And with each win, my belief in myself grew a little stronger.
But even more than that, I began to feel connected to the world around me again. I had spent so much time hiding in my own space, avoiding others because I was embarrassed by the way I looked or the way I felt. I had built walls around myself, both physical and emotional, to protect myself from the judgment I was sure I’d face. But as the weight came off, those walls started to crumble. I found myself smiling at strangers, accepting invitations to events I would have once declined, and most importantly, I found myself being present in the moment, rather than constantly thinking about how I looked or how uncomfortable I felt in my own skin.
But let’s be clear—this wasn’t easy. There were days when I wanted to give up, when the cravings felt stronger than my willpower, when the tiredness from working out felt too heavy to push through. There were days when I felt like a fraud, like I wasn’t worthy of the progress I had made, because I still had so much further to go. But those days were fewer and fewer, and each time they came, I learned to ride them out instead of giving in to them.
There were people along the way who didn’t make it easier. Family members who didn’t understand why I was eating differently or working out so much. Friends who made jokes about my dedication or tried to tempt me with “just one slice” of cake. But what I began to realize is that their opinions didn’t matter. What mattered was that I was showing up for myself. No one else was going to do it for me, and if I didn’t take this seriously, no one else could change my life but me.
As I kept going, I noticed a change in the way others saw me. But more importantly, I noticed a shift in the way I saw myself. No longer was I the girl who had to hide in the back of photos or make excuses not to join in. I was the girl who went for runs in the morning, who cooked healthy meals without feeling like it was a chore, who was unapologetically herself—finally free from the weight of self-doubt and insecurity.
But here’s the twist—the part of this journey that I never saw coming.
One day, a friend from my past reached out. It had been years since we’d talked, and honestly, I wasn’t sure how she had gotten my number. But she said she had been following my progress on social media and was impressed by my transformation.
“I’ve been struggling too,” she admitted. “I feel like I’m stuck in a rut, and seeing what you’ve done has inspired me.”
At first, I was just flattered. But then she told me something that changed everything.
“I’ve been meaning to tell you,” she said. “You were the reason I started my own weight loss journey years ago.”
I was shocked. “What do you mean?”
“You probably don’t remember, but when we were in high school, I was always comparing myself to you,” she explained. “You were always confident, always the one everyone turned to. But I saw how you struggled with your weight, and I thought if you could do it, so could I. I started my journey back then because I wanted to feel like you seemed to feel.”
I sat there for a moment, taking it all in. I had never thought of myself as a role model. I had been so consumed with my own struggles that I couldn’t see how my actions—my small wins—had been influencing others around me.
“But I didn’t do it for you,” I said slowly, “I did it for myself. I had to.”
“I know,” she replied. “But you don’t realize that your journey didn’t just change your life. It changed mine too.”
Her words hit me harder than I expected. It was then I realized that everything I had done—every drop of sweat, every sore muscle, every early morning workout—had rippled out into the lives of others. My fight wasn’t just for me. It was for everyone who had ever felt the same way I did—trapped in their own body, struggling with their self-worth, unsure of how to make it better. And in the process, I had inspired someone else to take the first step toward change, just by being real about my own.
As we talked, she told me that she had lost over 50 kilos and was now a trainer herself. The moment I realized that my journey had helped her start hers, I felt something I hadn’t expected—gratitude. It wasn’t just about what I had gained in terms of weight loss. It was about the impact I had made without even realizing it.
I felt, for the first time in a long while, like everything had come full circle. I wasn’t just helping myself; I was part of a bigger story, a story of transformation and growth, of people inspiring each other to be better.
And as for me, the lesson was clear. We’re all connected. Our actions, our choices, even the quiet ones that seem insignificant, can ripple out and affect the world in ways we can’t always see.
So, if you’re reading this, remember: you never know who’s watching you, who’s inspired by your journey, even if you’re not trying to inspire anyone at all. Every small step you take for yourself could be the nudge someone else needs to take theirs.
Share this post if you know someone who needs a reminder that the impact of their journey is bigger than they realize. Let’s keep lifting each other up.
