Everyone thinks it’s cute.
“He’s got a built-in best friend!”
“They’re gonna grow up together!”
And yeah, it is cute. My son, Nico, and our dog Bubbles are practically glued together. Morning to bedtime, wherever one goes, the other’s right behind. Nico watches TV with his arm resting on Bubbles like a little human pillow. Bubbles waits outside the bathroom while Nico brushes his teeth.
Even now, he’s holding his toy lantern like he’s about to lead some great expedition—and Bubbles is sitting there, alert, like she’s his second-in-command. It’s adorable… until I think too hard about it.
Because dogs don’t live as long as kids do.
And I know it sounds dramatic, but every time I catch them curled up in a nap pile or sharing peanut butter snacks, a tiny part of me feels scared. Like I’m watching a countdown I can’t control.
He calls her “Bubba.” He thinks she understands full sentences. She probably does. He’ll ask, “Bubba, wanna go find dinosaurs?” and she’ll perk up like, obviously. And they’ll go stomp around the backyard like explorers.
People say things like, “They’ll make memories for life!”
But that’s the thing that scares me. What happens when Bubbles isn’t around anymore? What happens when Nico is old enough to understand that his best friend is gone? I’ve seen it happen before—pets growing old and eventually passing away, leaving behind grieving hearts and childhoods altered forever.
I can’t bear the thought of that moment. I can’t bear the thought of Nico coming to me, asking where Bubbles went, and having to explain the finality of it. How do I make him understand that it’s not a phase? That death isn’t just something we can move past like a bad day?
When I first brought Bubbles home, I never imagined they’d become so inseparable. She was supposed to be just a pet—an extra pair of paws to keep me company while my husband was at work. But from the moment Nico was born, something clicked between the two of them. He was just a baby, but even then, she would curl up by his crib, watch over him as he napped. It was like she understood that he was hers to protect, and I never once had to worry about her being anything other than a gentle, loving presence in his life.
But that bond grew too deep. It became everything to Nico. It was no longer just the bond between a child and a pet—it was his bond. Bubbles wasn’t just a dog anymore. She was his partner in crime, his confidant, his constant. I’ve never seen him so attached to anything else. Not his toys, not his friends. Just Bubbles.
And every time I see them together, my heart swells with love for both of them, but there’s also this lingering feeling of dread. It’s like a silent clock ticking in the back of my mind. I keep wondering—how will he cope when she’s gone?
I know, I know. I sound dramatic. But it’s just that deep, unshakable worry that comes with being a parent. The desire to protect your child from pain. The need to shield them from all the hard, ugly truths of life. And that’s the thing—there’s no way to soften the blow of losing a pet you’ve grown up with. Bubbles is more than just a dog to Nico. She’s family. She’s his first real love.
I tried to brush it off at first. I tried to remind myself that pets, like people, are part of the natural cycle. They come into our lives, they give us love, and then they leave. But the truth is, I don’t know how to handle it when she leaves. How will Nico handle it?
A few months ago, something happened that made me realize just how deeply their bond runs. We went to the park, just the three of us—Nico, Bubbles, and me. Nico was chasing Bubbles, laughing, calling her to fetch the ball. He was running like a little whirlwind, and Bubbles, with all the energy of a puppy despite her age, was right there with him.
Then, out of nowhere, Bubbles stopped. She was still, watching Nico. I called to her, but she didn’t move. She just looked at him, her eyes soft, like she was making a decision.
I approached her, my heart skipping a beat. That’s when I saw it—she was limping. She hadn’t been limping earlier, and now, there was something off about her gait. I crouched down to check on her, and she gave a soft whimper. I knew immediately something was wrong.
We rushed home. I got her to the vet, but the diagnosis wasn’t what I wanted to hear. Bubbles was getting older, and arthritis was setting in. She wasn’t as spry as she used to be. Her body was showing the first signs of aging, and it was only a matter of time before it would get worse.
That night, as Nico and Bubbles curled up together on the couch, I realized just how much time we had left with her. And it hit me like a ton of bricks.
I had never seen Nico so upset, even when he had a bad day at school. He sensed something wasn’t right, but he didn’t understand what was happening. He kept asking why Bubbles wasn’t running as fast as she used to, and it broke my heart to hear him ask. The look in his eyes—the confusion, the concern—was too much. How do you explain that to a child who’s only four years old?
I spent the next few days carefully monitoring Bubbles, making sure she was as comfortable as possible. But the more I watched, the more I noticed how different their dynamic was. Nico was trying harder than ever to care for her—he’d give her his favorite stuffed animals, even though she never asked for them. He’d sit beside her while she napped, rubbing her ears like she was the one who needed comforting.
That’s when I decided I had to do something. I couldn’t control when Bubbles would pass, but I could control how we prepared.
I started talking to Nico about Bubbles’ aging process in simple terms. I explained that, just like people, dogs get older and their bodies change. He was quiet at first, but then he looked at me, his big brown eyes wide with understanding.
“I don’t want her to go away, Mommy,” he said softly, his voice full of worry.
I could barely hold back the tears. It hurt to hear him say it. But I hugged him tight and told him that Bubbles would always be a part of our family, no matter what happened.
But it was then that I realized something—I didn’t just need to prepare Nico. I needed to prepare myself too. For all my talk of wanting to protect him from pain, I hadn’t fully faced the reality that I had no control over how long we had with Bubbles. All I could do was cherish the moments, just as Nico had been doing.
As the weeks passed, I started taking photos of Nico and Bubbles together, capturing moments I knew I would cherish forever. I even started writing little notes for Nico, about his best friend, so that when the time came, he would always remember how much she meant to him. I didn’t want him to forget.
And then came the twist—the unexpected turn of events that I could have never imagined. One morning, Nico woke up early, as usual, and went to check on Bubbles. He came running to me, his face bright with excitement.
“Mom! She’s better! Bubbles is better!”
I rushed to the living room, not sure what he was talking about. But sure enough, there she was, walking around the room, her tail wagging. The limp was gone. She was moving with a new spring in her step.
I took her to the vet again, just to make sure. The vet couldn’t explain it, except to say that sometimes, with the right care and rest, older dogs can have days where they seem to recover. Maybe it was just a good day.
But in my heart, I knew that it was more than that. It was a gift—a little more time with our beloved dog, and a reminder that we can’t always predict what’s going to happen. Sometimes, the universe gives us a little grace when we need it most.
We didn’t know how long Bubbles would be with us, but for now, she was there, and Nico’s heart was whole again.
And the lesson? Life is unpredictable. You can’t always control the timing of the things you fear, but you can choose how you make the most of the time you have. Cherish every moment. And when the tough times come, remember that sometimes, you’ll get a little more grace than you expect.
If you’ve had a similar experience with a pet or loved one, share this story. Let’s remind each other to cherish the small, beautiful moments in life.
