Every single day, without fail, someone asks me about it.
“Why are you wearing two watches?”
“Did you forget to take one off?”
“Is this some kind of fashion statement?”
I just smile and give the easy answer—”I like them both” or “Just a habit.” But the truth? It’s something much deeper.
One of these watches is mine. The other belonged to someone I lost. Someone whose time stopped before it should have.
Wearing them both makes me feel like they’re still here, like we’re still in sync, like their time didn’t just end one day while mine kept going.
Most people wouldn’t get it. They see two watches, two different straps, two ticking hands.
But that’s not the whole story. They don’t understand the weight of what these watches represent. They don’t know the story behind the second one—the one that never should have been left behind.
Let me take you back a few years.
It was the kind of day that felt like any other. Nothing out of the ordinary—until it was. I remember the morning, how everything seemed to be moving in slow motion, as though the universe itself had decided to pause for just a fraction of a second. I was getting ready for work, the sun barely peeking through the curtains, when I received the call that would change everything.
It was my brother’s friend on the other end, his voice trembling, barely coherent. “I’m sorry, but… it’s James. There’s been an accident.”
I didn’t understand what he was saying at first. I couldn’t. It wasn’t real. James, my older brother, the one who had always been there for me—gone? Just like that?
It’s funny how life can turn on a dime. How in the blink of an eye, everything can change.
James had been driving home from a late-night shift when a reckless driver had slammed into his car. It wasn’t his fault. He didn’t even know what hit him. Just like that, the person I had looked up to my whole life—gone.
I’ll never forget the day of his funeral. The day I stood by his grave, feeling like I was in a nightmare I couldn’t wake up from. The pain of losing him was unbearable. We were a close family—no secrets, no distance—and this loss hit harder than I could have ever prepared for.
It was his watch that brought me the most comfort, though. The one I’m wearing now. It wasn’t anything fancy—just a simple silver wristwatch he’d worn for years. I didn’t know it at the time, but that watch would become my anchor.
James had always been the kind of guy who lived by a schedule. Always on time, always ready to take on the world. He was disciplined, punctual, and organized. That watch had always been with him, ticking away as he went about his busy life. The last time I saw him, he’d been wearing it. He’d joked about how “important” his watch was, like it was some kind of magical timepiece that kept his life together. I never realized how true that was until after he was gone.
When I was at the hospital the day he passed, I asked his friend if I could have the watch. I didn’t want anything else, just that one piece. He had been wearing it when the accident happened, and it felt like the only connection I had left to him. At first, it felt almost morbid to ask for it. But then, I couldn’t imagine living without it. It was like a part of him was trapped in that little timepiece, and I needed it.
So, I kept it. I wore it every day. It became a piece of me, a silent reminder that time is fragile. That time waits for no one.
But there was something else I couldn’t ignore.
James had always been the protector. He had a way of looking out for me, making sure I was okay, even when I didn’t realize I needed help. He had this way of making everything feel safe, even in the chaos of life. He’d taught me so much, but it wasn’t just about the big lessons—like how to drive or how to negotiate in life. It was the little things. Like how to handle a difficult situation, how to stay calm under pressure, and how to just keep going, no matter what.
After he passed, it felt like a piece of me was missing. I couldn’t shake the feeling that something was still unfinished. Like there was more I was supposed to learn from him, more that I was supposed to carry with me.
That’s when I started wearing the second watch.
It wasn’t a decision I made lightly. I remember sitting in my living room one day, holding both watches in my hands, trying to figure out how to move forward. The second watch—one that belonged to a man I had met only recently, who had become a dear friend—wasn’t really my style. But it had significance.
His name was Andrew. I met him during one of my morning runs at the local park. We’d crossed paths a few times, and one day, he just stopped me and asked if I was training for something. We struck up a conversation, and before I knew it, we had become friends. Andrew was older, maybe in his mid-fifties, but there was something comforting about him. He had this calmness that I admired. He had a way of making you feel like everything was going to be okay, even when the world felt like it was falling apart.
Andrew had been through his own struggles—his wife had passed away unexpectedly, and he’d been living with the pain of that loss for years. But instead of retreating into himself, he used his grief to help others. He volunteered at a local shelter, offered mentorship to young people, and just had this ability to heal others through his presence.
One day, not long before his passing, Andrew gave me the watch. It was an old-fashioned, leather-strapped timepiece, a little worn around the edges. “This was my wife’s,” he said. “She used to wear it all the time. I want you to have it. I think she would’ve wanted you to have it.”
At the time, I wasn’t sure what to say. I didn’t feel deserving of it. But Andrew insisted, and I took it, unsure of its meaning.
Months later, I found myself wearing both watches—the one from James and the one from Andrew. The two watches, side by side, felt like they were somehow connected, even though they came from two different places. One was a reminder of time lost, the other a symbol of time well-lived, of love, of resilience. Both watches held pieces of people I had loved and lost.
But here’s the twist—about a month ago, I found out something that made me reconsider everything I thought I knew.
Andrew’s wife—who I’d thought had passed away—was actually still alive. She had been living in a nursing home for several years after suffering a stroke that had left her unable to care for herself. Andrew had kept this secret, not out of malice, but out of love. He had given me the watch not as a symbol of his own loss, but as a way of ensuring that I’d always carry a piece of his wife’s memory with me.
I was shocked. But then, I understood. In his quiet, selfless way, Andrew had been teaching me the same lesson James had—time is fleeting. And sometimes, the people we love live on in the most unexpected ways.
Now, I wear both watches not just for me, but for them. For the people who taught me that time, while precious, is also a gift. It’s not about how long we have, but what we do with the time we’re given.
And maybe, just maybe, by wearing these watches, I’m not just keeping their memories alive. I’m also learning to live fully in the present, to cherish every second, because I know how quickly time can slip away.
So, to anyone who wonders why I wear two watches, that’s why. It’s not about fashion or habit. It’s about remembering the lessons they taught me, the love they gave, and the time I still have.
And if you’re struggling with loss, with grief, or with uncertainty, know this: time keeps moving forward. And as long as we’re here, we have the chance to make the most of it.
Please share this story with anyone who might need a reminder to appreciate the time they have. Let’s cherish every moment, together.
