It started the day we posted his birth announcement. A sweet little photo of him in his bassinet, wrapped in that blue-striped hospital blanket, eyes barely open. Caption said: “Welcome to the world, Ocean Wilder.”
We thought it was beautiful. Strong. Calm but powerful. It reminded us of the coast where we found out we were pregnant. Where everything finally started to make sense for us as a couple. But apparently, not everyone saw it that way.
Within hours, the jokes rolled in. “What is he, a Marvel character?” “Is he gonna grow up to be a surfer or a shampoo brand?” Even people we know—family, old classmates, coworkers—started throwing shade. Some of it subtle. Some of it straight-up rude.
One guy from high school texted me just to say, “Good luck getting teachers to take him seriously.”
It didn’t stop there. When we introduced him at daycare, a mom gave me this tight-lipped smile and said, “Oh… that’s different.” Another actually asked if it was “his legal name or just a nickname we’re trying out.”
But here’s the thing no one tells you when you pick a name for your child: people feel entitled to their opinions, no matter how unwelcome they are. And the more you try to explain the meaning behind it, the more it feels like you’re defending your choice as though it were some kind of mistake. But let me tell you—Ocean Wilder isn’t a mistake. It’s a name that has meaning, and it’s a name that resonates with both me and my husband.
My husband, Daniel, and I spent months picking it. We’d always wanted something that wasn’t too common but still had substance. Ocean reminded us of our trip to the coast when we found out we were expecting. We spent days walking along the beach, watching the waves crash, feeling small in the vastness of the world. The name Wilder came from the wildness of that place—the beauty of nature, unpredictable and free. It was a reflection of how we felt about this new chapter in our lives.
But somehow, the more we tried to explain it, the more we felt like we were in the wrong. One night, after hearing a particularly snide comment from a relative, I sat in the living room, staring at Ocean in his crib. He was so tiny, so perfect, and yet here we were, fielding endless critiques about a name that was supposed to bring us joy.
Daniel sat down beside me, pulling me close. “I hate seeing you like this,” he said softly. “We chose this name together because it felt right. Forget what anyone else thinks.”
“I know,” I replied, trying not to cry. “But it just feels like everyone’s attacking him before he even gets a chance to grow into it. And I’m afraid that’s going to hurt him.”
Daniel kissed the top of my head. “Ocean Wilder is a strong name. It’ll fit him. People can be mean about anything. Let them talk. He’s ours, and he’ll grow into that name no matter what.”
That night, I decided something. I wasn’t going to let the opinions of others change how I felt about our son’s name. The name Ocean Wilder meant something beautiful to us, and I wasn’t going to let some hurtful comments take that away.
But it wasn’t just the comments. It was the constant barrage of questions we got. When we went to family gatherings, relatives would ask, “Did you think about a backup name in case he gets teased?” And when I’d say no, they’d look at me with pity. “Well, he’ll have to deal with it eventually.”
We even started to see the subtle effects outside of family. One time at a grocery store, a cashier couldn’t help but ask, “Oh, is Ocean Wilder his real name?” The tone of the question was enough to make me feel like she thought we’d named him after a made-up character from a novel.
And then came the turning point.
It was a Wednesday afternoon, and I was at the park with Ocean in his stroller. I was enjoying the peace, the sun, and the fresh air when I overheard a conversation from two moms nearby. They were talking about kids’ names, and one of them turned to the other and said, “I’ve heard of some crazy names for kids, but Ocean Wilder? That’s just… out there.”
My first instinct was to walk away, but I felt a strange kind of courage wash over me. I wasn’t going to be silenced anymore. So, I turned to them and said, “Actually, that’s my son’s name. And it means a lot to us.”
The look on their faces was almost comical. They went silent for a moment, not expecting to be called out, and then one of the moms muttered, “Oh… well, I’m sure he’ll grow into it.” The other quickly added, “It’s just… different, you know?”
I smiled, trying not to feel the sting. “Yeah, it is different. But sometimes different is exactly what you need.”
I walked away feeling like I’d won a small victory. Maybe it was small, but it felt big to me. I realized then that this was my son’s story too. The name he carried wasn’t something to apologize for or explain away. It was part of his identity, part of his journey. And the people who made fun of it? They didn’t matter.
Things started to shift for me after that moment. I stopped trying to convince people that his name was okay. I stopped explaining it or apologizing for it. I let people think what they wanted. And I started to see how this was shaping the way I approached other things in my life.
But life has a funny way of balancing things out. Just as we were starting to feel more comfortable with our decision, I got a message one morning that made me laugh, albeit in disbelief. It was from an old high school friend who had been one of the first to criticize our choice of name.
The message read: “Hey, I know I gave you a hard time about Ocean Wilder’s name, but I wanted to let you know something. I just named my son ‘River Sky’ last week, and I wanted to apologize for being so judgmental. It turns out, we all have our own style, right?”
I couldn’t believe it. After all the teasing, the mocking, here he was, reaching out, apologizing, and admitting that he had named his own son something equally unique. River Sky. I couldn’t help but laugh out loud.
The irony wasn’t lost on me. The very people who had mocked us for thinking outside the box were now following in our footsteps. And in a strange way, it made me feel like we had already won. Our son’s name wasn’t just unique. It was inspiring others to think beyond the norm, to embrace creativity and individuality.
It was a reminder that life often works in mysterious ways. The people who criticize you the most can end up learning from you in the end. And sometimes, the very thing that people mock you for can become the thing that sets you apart in a way that brings unexpected rewards.
In a way, the name Ocean Wilder had done exactly what we hoped it would. It wasn’t just about a name; it was about the message behind it. It was about the wildness of life, the beauty of being unique, and the courage to stand by your choices, even when the world doesn’t understand them.
So, if you’re in a situation where you’re feeling judged or criticized for something that truly matters to you, remember this: Don’t let others’ opinions change your path. The road to success, to happiness, and to peace often requires you to take that first step despite the noise.
And if you’ve ever felt like your choices were being ridiculed, just know that you’re not alone. The things that make you different are often the very things that give you strength. So, keep going. Keep being you.
And if this story resonates with you, share it with others who might need a little encouragement today. Sometimes, the best way to lift someone else up is to share a piece of your own journey.
Thanks for reading, and as always, don’t forget to like and share this post if it spoke to you. Let’s keep spreading positivity and strength, one unique name at a time.
