We didn’t plan on getting a dog. It just kinda happened.
Ten years ago, we were driving back from a camping trip, tired and cranky, when we spotted this tiny, terrified puppy curled up next to a dumpster behind a gas station. He was all ribs and fleas, shivering even in the summer heat. I don’t know what made me get out of the car, but I did. And the second I picked him up, he buried his head in my jacket and sighed like he’d been waiting for us the whole time.
We named him Banjo. No reason, really—it just came out. And from that moment on, he’s been stuck to us like Velcro.
He’s not a fetch kind of dog. Or a stay home and guard the couch kind. Nope. Banjo has to be in the middle of it all. Grocery runs, road trips, even picking up takeout—if we so much as jingle the car keys, he’s already waiting by the door with his blue bow and that serious little face.
People always commented on how much energy Banjo had. He was never still, always bouncing around, always wagging his tail like it was the only thing that mattered in the world. And no matter how many times we tried to leave him at home, he’d always make sure to find a way to sneak into the car. One time, I swear he jumped into the backseat while we were getting the groceries out of the trunk. We didn’t even hear him. That’s how sneaky he could be.
But the thing that made Banjo so special, beyond his constant need to be where the action was, was the way he loved us. It wasn’t just the typical dog love, where they’re excited when you walk in the door. Banjo’s love was deep, possessive even. He never liked being apart from us for too long, and that became even more apparent when we started having kids. From the moment we brought our first child home, Banjo decided that he was their protector. He would lay by their crib, sleep on their feet, and follow them around the house as they grew. He was more than just a pet—he was family.
But over the years, things started to change in ways I wasn’t expecting. Banjo was still as loyal as ever, but as he got older, he started becoming a little more… protective. I don’t know when it happened exactly, but somewhere along the way, he decided that the world outside our house was full of threats. Neighbors? Threats. The mailman? Threat. The delivery driver? Double threat. If anyone came too close to our property, Banjo would start barking, growling, and even try to chase them away.
At first, we thought it was just a phase. He was getting older, and maybe he was just getting a bit more territorial. But as the months passed, it only got worse. And it wasn’t just about the yard anymore. Banjo started following us everywhere—into the kitchen, the bathroom, even when we went to bed. If one of us left the room, Banjo was right there behind us, looking up at us with those big, worried eyes.
We thought it was sweet at first. A little quirky, maybe, but sweet. Who wouldn’t want a dog that was so devoted? But then came the night when things got a little too much.
We’d planned a weekend getaway—a little trip to the mountains to get away from the hustle of daily life. Of course, Banjo wasn’t thrilled about it, but we had a dog sitter lined up. A trusted friend who lived just a few blocks away, someone who had watched Banjo before. We figured he’d be fine.
The moment we started packing the car, Banjo went into a panic. He started pacing, whining, and standing by the door, looking at us with those pleading eyes. I felt guilty, but we couldn’t take him with us this time—there were already too many restrictions at the cabin, and the place wasn’t exactly dog-friendly. It was a necessity.
“I’ll be fine, buddy,” I said to him as I gave him a quick hug. “You’ll be safe with Kathy, I promise.”
But Banjo didn’t seem convinced. He kept glancing at the car as we loaded it, his tail tucked between his legs. When Kathy arrived to take him to her house, Banjo gave me one last look—the kind of look that seemed to say, Don’t leave me.
I felt a twinge of guilt, but we drove off anyway.
That night, we were in the middle of our road trip when I got the call.
Kathy’s voice was panicked. “Something’s wrong with Banjo. He won’t eat, he’s shaking, and he keeps trying to run to the door.”
My heart sank. “What happened? Is he okay?”
“I don’t know. He just won’t settle. I’ve never seen him act like this before.”
We had to turn back. There was no question. Whatever was going on, Banjo needed us, and there was no way I was going to let him suffer without being there. I thought maybe he was just missing us, but when we arrived, it was clear that it wasn’t just about being away from home. Banjo was acting like he’d lost his mind. His breathing was shallow, his eyes wide with panic, and he kept darting to the door, scratching at it, as if he was trying to escape.
I bent down and held him in my arms, trying to comfort him, but he wasn’t calming down. In fact, he seemed worse, more frantic than I had ever seen him. His once joyful demeanor was gone, replaced by a nervous energy that was completely out of character.
Kathy looked on, helpless. “What do you think it is?”
“I don’t know,” I said softly, rubbing Banjo’s ears. “But I think he’s scared.”
Scared? Of what? I was starting to feel that same unease I saw in Banjo’s eyes. It was almost like he was reacting to something invisible, something we couldn’t see.
I called the vet, and they said to bring him in immediately. We rushed to the clinic, all the while Banjo’s anxiety growing with every passing minute. When we got there, the vet did a full checkup. He ran tests, checked his heart, his joints, everything. But there was nothing physically wrong with him.
After a few hours, the vet gave us an answer we weren’t expecting.
“It seems Banjo has developed a severe case of separation anxiety,” the vet explained. “It’s a common issue with dogs that are very bonded to their owners, but in Banjo’s case, it’s reached a level where it’s causing him significant distress.”
I was stunned. I had never considered that. Banjo had always been a little clingy, but I hadn’t realized that it was something deeper, something that could cause him such panic.
“What can we do to help him?” I asked, desperate.
The vet gave us some advice—gradual reintroduction to being alone, calming products like pheromone sprays, even medication if needed. But there was one thing that stood out: We had to stop leaving him alone for long periods of time.
That was the key. Banjo’s separation anxiety wasn’t about being left with someone else—it was about us leaving him at all. And after ten years of being constantly by our side, he couldn’t bear the thought of us being gone.
As we headed home, I couldn’t help but feel a wave of guilt. Had we been taking him for granted? Had we failed to see the signs? He had been telling us all along that he needed us, but we’d brushed it off as quirks.
We made a decision that night—no more long trips. No more leaving him for days. From that point forward, we adjusted our lives around Banjo’s needs, ensuring that he felt secure and loved.
And here’s where the karmic twist comes in: The moment we made the decision to stop traveling so much, something shifted. I started to take notice of the things I had been missing. The little moments, the quiet times at home. Banjo had been the reminder I needed to slow down, to focus on what truly mattered. In the years that followed, I found that our lives, though quieter, became richer. We spent more time together as a family, we found new hobbies, and we forged stronger connections. Banjo’s need for closeness was a blessing in disguise—it forced us to live in the moment, something we had long forgotten.
So, to anyone out there who feels like they’ve been too busy or distracted to really appreciate the ones they love—take a moment to look around. You might just find that the thing you thought was a burden was actually the thing that brings you back to what truly matters.
Please share this story if it resonated with you. Let’s remind each other to slow down and appreciate the little things in life.
