The most undesirable traits in a partner.
There is no need for that kind of negativity here, or anywhere else for that matter, so I made sure to emphasize that this wasn’t about physical appearances when I set out to find out what people think the most unattractive qualities in a partner are. Furthermore, they’re not what we typically picture when someone we were interested in lost their appeal to us.
In order to better understand the characteristics that we may possess that significant others or potential significant others aren’t so fond of, this article details the qualities that men and women find most unattractive. It is not intended to criticize anyone. Who knows, perhaps it is these characteristics that prevent you from finding true love or companionship.
After putting out a call for responses on the topic, I was shocked to learn that a great deal, a great deal more women than men wanted to express their opinions. These women genuinely wanted to express the traits they don’t much like!
The unattractive traits people responded with could be found in anyone, regardless of gender, I realized after taking stock of all the responses I received, ranging from lack of empathy to narcissism. The personality traits that were the least appealing were as follows.
Lack of compassion.
Narcissists are the absolute worst.
egocentric women who only focus on themselves, their problems, and their public persona. It’s as if they always turn to you, call you, and act like they’re your “best friend” whenever they have a problem. However, when it’s you who has the issue, they treat it as if it doesn’t exist and advise you to “move on and forget it.”. These women are absolutely intolerable. – Vivi, 28.
A lot of Drama.
A gossipy, foul-mouthed woman who speaks poorly of other women is one of the most unattractive traits I detest. My adage is: “If you have nothing nice to say about someone, shut your trap!” – Lucie, 48.
Small-minded interests.
lacking passion for intellectual subjects. – Peter, 54.
a penchant for playing video games.
playing the game unfairly in the slightest way. The majority of good guys will perform the “hard next,” as it is known. Consequently, if a girl is not immediately obvious that she likes us, we will move on. – Andy, 31.
Insecurities.
Insecurity and mistrust are the two most unattractive traits that prevent people from continuing relationships, in my experience as a doctor and based on what I hear from both men and women. Most people are not willing to wait for them to work through their issues or to begin a relationship based on them, despite the fact that many people have experienced things in their past that have caused them to feel this way. – Nikki, 46.
One-Upping.
I don’t want to carry on a conversation with a woman who is subtly (or overtly) competing with me or other women, and I don’t want to include her in any other conversations. When you are excitedly sharing a new experience with others, she may mention how she has already been there and done that, which is an example of this competitiveness in action. These competitive dames frequently try to dominate group discussions. Marilyn, age 49.
Pessimism.
A pessimist or “Debby Downer” is someone who is constantly pessimistic about everything. I agree that there should occasionally be some negativity, but it should also be balanced by some positive sentiment. Otherwise, you essentially put a damper on everything. – Jared, 28.
Narcissism.
someone who constantly complains about their workload. We’re all, like, busy. Be mature and move on. — Stephanie, age 23.
Elitism.
a person who uses their position in society—their job and wealth—to advance themselves in conversation. Your annual salary is irrelevant; you are boasting, and I don’t like that. Why don’t you buy me dinner if you’re making so much money? – Laura, 32.
