People always look at his chair first. Not his smile, not his spark. Just the wheels. Like it tells them everything they need to know.
But what they don’t see is how long we waited for this kind of freedom.
Before the chair, we had to plan everything down to the minute. How far is the walk? Are there stairs? Will his legs give out halfway through the toy aisle, and will I have to carry him while pretending my back isn’t screaming?
He used to get frustrated. Angry, even. Not because he didn’t want to move—but because his body wouldn’t let him the way he wanted. He’d watch other kids run, dart, jump, and he’d sit there clenching his fists like if he squeezed hard enough, he could will his muscles to cooperate.
And then came the chair.
I thought it would feel like surrender. Like giving in. But the second he rolled himself down our hallway—on his own—he looked up at me and said, “I can go fast now.”
Now he could.
And I couldn’t help but smile, watching him navigate the hallway with so much confidence. It wasn’t just a chair to him—it was a new lease on life. For so long, his movements had been limited, restricted by a body that didn’t do what he wanted it to. But that day, when he realized he could move without waiting for someone to help him, without being dependent on anyone, it was like a weight had lifted. He was free.
The wheelchair didn’t limit him—it gave him the freedom to do things on his own. For the first time in a long time, he was in control.
At first, I was terrified. I feared what the world would think when they saw him in it. The stares, the whispers, the judgement. I had seen it happen to other parents with children who had special needs. It was hard to watch, and I worried it would be just as hard for my son.
But then something remarkable happened.
We went to the park one afternoon, a place we used to avoid because it always felt too challenging. The swings, the slides, the climbing structures—they were all just out of reach. But this time, with the wheelchair, things were different. As we wheeled through the gates, kids immediately came over, eager to show him how to work the swings or race him to the slide.
They didn’t see the chair first. They saw him.
And for the first time in his life, he didn’t feel like an outsider. He was just one of the kids, laughing, playing, joining in. I could see the change in his eyes as he realized he didn’t have to sit back and watch anymore. He could be a part of it, fully included.
It was in those moments that I realized how wrong I had been to feel like the wheelchair was a limitation. It wasn’t. It was just a tool, a tool that allowed him to do the things he loved, to be as active as any other child, to explore the world in his own way.
But it wasn’t just about the chair. It was about the mindset that shifted.
Before the chair, there had been a sense of resignation, of giving in to the reality of his condition. I, too, had fallen into that mindset. I thought if I didn’t fight against his limitations, I was somehow accepting defeat. I had watched him struggle, watched him fight his own body, and I had done my best to soften the blows. But the chair gave him power back. It gave him the ability to make choices for himself.
One afternoon, just a few weeks after we got the chair, we went to a local festival. There was music, food, a petting zoo, and a long line for the bouncy castle. I noticed how my son was eyeing the bouncy castle, watching the other kids jump and laugh. He looked at me, a little hesitant, and I saw the question in his eyes.
“Do you want to go in?” I asked, not sure if he thought it was possible.
He smiled at me and said, “I think I can now.”
And just like that, he wheeled himself over to the bouncy castle entrance. The attendant, who hadn’t seen him approach in the chair, looked a little surprised at first but quickly smiled and helped him in. I watched as my son joined the other kids, bouncing and laughing, his wheelchair tucked away at the edge.
Later that night, as we sat together eating cotton candy, I saw him looking out over the park. He was smiling, but there was a new kind of quiet confidence in his eyes.
“I’m glad I can go places now,” he said, looking up at me. “I don’t want to wait anymore.”
And in that moment, I understood. The chair had opened up a world of possibilities, a world I had never allowed myself to imagine. It wasn’t just a tool—it was his pathway to independence.
But the change didn’t stop there. My son began to take ownership of his own life in ways I hadn’t anticipated. He started setting goals for himself—he wanted to race around the track at school, he wanted to learn how to wheel himself across ramps, he wanted to go on field trips and be as active as anyone else.
It wasn’t always easy. There were moments of frustration, times when he was tired or when the world around him didn’t accommodate his chair the way it should have. But he never gave up. And neither did I.
In fact, we both became advocates for better accessibility at school, at parks, at events. What began as a personal journey turned into something bigger. We realized that the world around us wasn’t just going to change on its own. We had to fight for it. And so, together, we worked on getting ramps, better seating, and more awareness of what it truly meant to be inclusive.
There were even some challenges I never expected. There were times when people stared, when they assumed my son couldn’t do certain things, or when they didn’t know how to respond. I would catch my breath, preparing myself to defend his right to be there, to be seen as equal. But instead, something amazing started happening—more and more people began to approach us, telling us how inspiring it was to see him pushing forward, going after what he wanted.
The twist? The more we opened up about our journey, the more we realized that our story was changing others. Teachers, parents, even strangers we met in line at the grocery store started sharing their own experiences of overcoming limitations, whether physical or emotional. The more we shared, the more we understood how connected we all are in our struggles and victories.
But the most powerful moment came when I received an email from the director of the school’s special needs program. She told me that because of the work my son had done to advocate for better accessibility, the school had received a grant to improve mobility access for all students, including better ramps, wider hallways, and more accessible play areas.
My son’s wheelchair, something I once feared would make him stand out for all the wrong reasons, had become the catalyst for a change that would benefit everyone.
He had set a new standard. Not just for himself, but for others.
I realized that the true gift wasn’t in the chair—it was in the courage to live without apology, the courage to push forward in spite of obstacles, and the courage to embrace who we are, limitations and all.
And so, the lesson here is simple: Sometimes the things we fear the most—those things that seem like limitations—can actually set us free. We just have to allow ourselves to see them differently. What we once saw as a restriction might actually be the key to unlocking something bigger than we could have ever imagined.
So, share this story with someone who might need that reminder today. It might be just the push they need to break through their own barriers.
